Well here's something bothering me, you know we all say who cares about what people think, they talk so let them. But what if you are one of those 'people' and the one you talk about is someone close to you? Let them be or voice your concern, especially when the key motivation of your concern maybe related to social norms and nothing legit.
If you think about it, every one's set different standards of what's acceptable to them, so if there is something I am okay with, it may be something utterly repulsive to you, so I respect the right to pick a way of life suitable to you, but is it under any circumstance acceptable to set some standards common to all? Like covering your privates in front of people. Having said that, if someone close to you does something you think unacceptable and pointing it out shouldn't be so hard, but everyone has their own defense system, people end up pointing your flaws out, thinking it somehow makes everything okay.
Downside of an idealistic society really, they feed you crap like "someone who really loves you wont let you do something he thinks isn't right" instead there's a general 'Don't nag, Don't judge' policy being practiced so I guess I can go with the flow and learn to keep my mouth shut. After all by definition, voicing my concern's might imply I am the enemy, and I would not want that.
But hey, aren't I making my concerns public right now? Perhaps the DNDJ(I 'just' coined that) isn't for me, so if you do something I am not okay with I will tell you, in turn if you think that I am no one to judge since I am not a saint myself, have it known I am not exactly judging you. And nag me for doing what ever you don't approve of. I think we all owe this to each other to politely point out each other's flaws after you reach a certain level of personal intimacy. So perhaps I am detesting the concept of minding your own business but it all comes from a good place and it would be much appreciated if you can take this sour pill with a spoon full of sugar.
So I have sinned, and honestly I did not feel bad while I was at it, and once I realised what I did I felt bad for not feeling bad. Then the words from this Indian movie echoed in my head; a person when committing a sin enjoys it, but then he repents and promises not to do it again. The act becomes more frequent until the person decides to not feel bad. At once something hit me. Have I decided to not feel bad? I didn't want to be destined to an eternity of shame. Well tbh when you are in one of those phases all the wrong things come to your mind, so the next thought that came to me (heads up to all the enlightened atheists out there, I apologise for having faith) was this thing I heard at a religious gathering, the scholar talked about how God refuses to have you as his servant and then damnation is your fate. Ouch! Sounds a bit harsh don't you think?
Any way, I refuse to take it. As long as I am alive I guess there's still room for improvement. So here I am with a new year resolution to top every other new year resolution. I will ask God for forgiveness, and work on self control. Good Luck Hassan! You should try it to, if any one's listening that is, if you don't believe in a higher power then tell your self you're sorry, Iqbal does believe the route to God is inside you. Get rid of those little vices that drive you insane who cares if they are socially acceptable or not, if your conscience doesn't accept it, then don't settle for less, you could be happier if you just tried.
